Where to even start?
Simply put, I have Dominant mentality with submissive desires. I really would make a kick ass Dominant. Oh… did I mention my education and career are based on behavioral psychology? Mm hmm… double whammy.
As if isn’t enough that I can run circles around a lot of Doms with my knowledge on the proper uses and safety guidelines of many “dungeon implements”. I was educated by one of the best professional dominatrix.
No, that wasn’t enough… couple that with my wicked knowledge on behavior and you have one submissive who knows far too much. Sometimes ignorance IS bliss. It’s hard knowing the games people play. It’s hard having a high set of standards because of it. It’s hard having a knowledge on the delicate balance of push and pull, give and take. Operant and Classical conditioning are both in my wheel house. Positive reinforcement techniques… yes, I use these on a daily basis. So, it’s really hard to “train” a submissive who already knows the rules and outcomes of the game.
Then there’s my natural attraction to intelligent, high functioning men. With intelligence, comes success and hard workers. So here’s where my finickiness harms me. Successful, hardworking men have pretty tight schedules. Plus, they live enriching and fulfilling lives with hobbies and social activities.
I require attention and care. I am not ashamed of it. I am a submissive with needs. I need to feel desired and wanted. I need to feel the presence of my dominant in my life even when we are not together physically. This can be difficult for men with busy schedules to fulfill.
I also require more than a man who can work a flogger. D/s to me, is not a purely physical realm. For me, it requires a very deep mental connection. This connection is hard to come by. It does not happen often. Sometimes, this connection happens, but it fizzles because it’s just not the right match. However, every once in awhile this connection happens, matched with chemistry and a beautiful D/s relationship is created.
Are you up for the challenge?
Hello Mina… I read your blogs and found that you are an interesting person. I am not having much knowledge of D/s, but would love to more about it. Would be glad to see reply from you.
Thank you for reading. I am not going to be able to teach you all there is about D/s. The journey is different for everyone. If you’d like to learn more, continue reading blogs like my own and perhaps joining BDSM social sites. There are also lots of books for reference. Just keep in mind that there is not ONE true way of D/s. It’s many different things to many different people.
Thank you for your kind suggestions Mina. i would surely try it. I will follow your blog because these are interesting to read and giving me some idea about D/s.